Rogenia Parker, MSW, LCSW

Stephanie Quarles,  BSN, RN

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An ongoing series of informational entries

Forgiveness can be one of the most difficult things to do; however, it is necessary. It doesn't mean that things will return to how they were before the incident, but it is helpful with progressing in one's life. I hope you find this video helpful. 

Do You Feel Overwhelmed During the Holidays?

December 23, 2019

Surviving the Holidays:

The holiday season for most people is a fun time of the year that consist of social gatherings, parties, celebrations and gift exchanges among family and friends. It can also be a difficult time of the year for others, especially individuals who have lost loved ones. There are various sources of sadness, that is individual specific.

However, there are ways to overcome holiday blues or at least surviving these seasons. Here are a few ways to get through the seasons intact:

1. Set realistic expectations about your holiday season and make realistic goals

2. Don't put all your energy into one holiday; remember to pace yourself, knowing that holiday cheer can be distributed across several holidays. This will eliminate over-stressing.

3. Learn to grieve. If you are grieving a loved one, this would be a good time to reach out to support groups or talk to someone about how you are feeling.

4. Reduce commitments if necessary. If you are feeling overwhelmed, remember it's okay to refrain from attending social gatherings. Remind yourself that holidays such as Thanksgiving and Christmas are only 24 hours; they will eventually end.

5. Consider engaging in trying something new or spend time doing volunteer work that involves helping others.

6. And lastly, remember to follow up with your mental health provider.

~ Happy Holidays 

How Important are Support Systems?

July 12, 2019

Social Support Systems:

Research has proven that having a social support system has many positive benefits. Studies have shown that social support can reduce depression and anxiety.

Some essential and key factors to building and maintaining a healthy and strong support system depends on the following:

1. Accountability. Sometimes friends and family need someone who will hold them accountable. Although it strokes our ego to always have someone agree with us or tell us what we want to hear, we need someone who will look beyond those things for our best interest. After all, our well-being is the most important thing!

2. Communication. Effective communication can solve a multitude of problems. It requires listening probably more so than talking. This leads into another important aspect of social support systems.........

3. Sense of purpose. An important route to finding meaning and a sense of purpose in one's life is being out in the world, engaging with others in a meaningful way and participating in meaningful activities. All of which involves positive interaction with other people.

4. Willingness to Compromise. Compromise is so important for relationships(no matter what kind of relationship it is). It consists of having a delicate balance between sacrificing your own views and wants without allowing people to run over you. The ability to compromise from all parties strengthen relationships and depending on the situation will be worth the investment.  

Are You Experiencing Difficulties with Transitioning in Life?

June 13, 2019

Life Transitions:

Life is ever-changing, regardless of our age. Sometimes we find ourselves so comfortable with our current situations, we don't really want to make any changes to it. However, "life" does not always play by our rules and when "life" happens we can't always prepare ourselves mentally to deal with the challenges that it brings. We can nonetheless try to adjust so that we are more prepared to deal with unexpected or unwanted "life" issues.

Many people fear change, with little regard to the possibility that change may improve their circumstances. Some call this "being a creature of habit". So how can we progress through life transitions without compiling stress and increasing depression and anxiety....... I will discuss 3 ways that will make adjusting easier for those involved.

1. Change your mindset:

Changing your view of the situation can relieve a lot of unnecessary stress. For instance, instead of viewing the situation as a threat, view it as a challenge. There is a saying that some of the best moments in our lives involved some kind of struggle. And struggle is not necessarily a bad thing because it can lead to growth and happiness. So take time to appreciate the benefit of change by focusing on the positives. Try to remember that you have been through other transitions(although some were so subtle, you barely realized it was a transition) and if you got through those transitions, you can get through this one!

2. Use your support network. It can be very difficult to navigate life transitions alone. A support network can be helpful with getting you prepared for your transition. The more prepared you are, the less stress, depression and anxiety you are going to have. So PREPARE, PREPARE, PREPARE!

3. And lastly, focus on where you life is going. It's okay to reflect on where you life has been, but try not to dwell on it. And use your past situation to help strengthen you for the future you are trying to achieve.

If you are having a difficult time adjusting or transitioning with your circumstances, Virtue Standards LLC would love to help!